Mother in the Eyes of Daughter

OMG... it's being a long long months that I have not come to our Blog ever since FB got on me!

When I read one of the letters to Abby just now, I can't stop thinking why children find it hard to understand it was their parents' good intention when certain restrictions were imposed oon them before they grown up as Adults. Why must it has to wait till they become parents to understand then to appreciate parents' love & care ????

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 15-year-old girl who has never been in trouble, but my mom treats me like I'm a criminal. She makes me go to church every Sunday. She makes me go to Catholic school, and I have to wear an ugly uniform. She won't help with my homework. She says, "I already did 10th grade." I can't wear halter tops, short shorts, a bikini or much makeup. If I tell her it's the style, she says, "Modesty is always in style."

When I go out with my friends, she wants to know where I'm going, who I'll be with, what we'll be doing, when we'll be back and their phone numbers. If I have a date with a new boy, she makes him come into the house and tell her what school he goes to. Then she makes him show her his driver's license and car registration.

I can't keep my computer in my room. When I'm using it in the den, she looks over my shoulder and won't let me go to chat rooms. I have to set the table even if we don't have company and sit down and have dinner with her every night.

If I can't afford something, she tells me to save up or budget better. She won't let me drive until I can pay for my own insurance. It's not like my mom's poor. We go to Hawaii and Lake Tahoe, and we've been to Europe and on cruises. But she won't even pay for cable TV. She says it's an idiot box and I should read a book instead.

She also makes me do my own laundry and keep my room and bathroom clean. She makes me do unfair chores like clean the guest bathroom even though I never ever use it. She wants to teach me to sew and cook, but I have no interest in those things.

She makes me visit Dad every week, and if I complain about anything, she says (very calmly and quietly, which I hate more than if she'd yell), "You can always choose to live with your dad."

She told me as long as I live under her roof, I have to abide by her rules even if I'm over 18. And I have to go to college, and if I don't, I'll have to get a job and support myself.

I could go on and on. Have you ever heard of a mother so unreasonable? I'm afraid to run away, but I don't know how much more of this I can take-- EMOTIONALLY ABUSED IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR EMOTIONALLY ABUSED: Wow! Your letter should be posted on every refrigerator in the country. Rarely do I hear about a parent who tries as hard as your mother does to do a diligent job. One day you will look back and thank her.

PS. And if by chance this letter was written by your mother -- congratulations for a job well-done. I would like to nominate you for Mother of the Year.

6 YEARS IN USA

Today marks my 6 years in America…. A country known as “American’s Dream Come True”.

It is so unbelievable that I would be here. It had never been in my dream to begin with. So, it remains a shocking experience whenever I related to people that I was here by myself 6 years ago leaving behind my daughter , family members , relatives, friends, colleagues, comrades and others . People thought I was crazy, too risky or kidding when they heard the news. I could not explain from where or how I got that courage to make such an adventurous decision 6 1/2 years ago.

When I told my family members of my decision, they were all sad to see me go. I was very touched to hear my youngest brother Alan said “I support your decision, but if you are not happy with your new place, please come back”. So I guess this might be the plan that I could fall back if my life here is undesirable or not suitable.

When I boarded the plane for that solid 24 hours alone, I knew it was the decision that I wish I do not have to turn back. I remembered my mom used to tell people that I was special in my own way. She knew that I would not jump into anything without confidence. Now, it makes me wonder if she is still around would she allow Ah Don to address her as Mom-in-law. After I graduated from high school, I wanted to pursue a nursing course in England; My Mom did not agree to it for fear that I might marry a white man and refuse to return home!! During those days, it was not a good thing to marry to “Angmokou”! It was a shame to the family! What now??

Through experience, I believe that if you choose to be happy, you will be happy. Right now, I am satisfied that my daughter is happy over there and I am blessed with happy marriage with Ah Don.